“Once there were two monkeys in love.”
This line is from an anniversary card we received from a dear friend. It makes me smile and giggle every time I see it, no matter how many times I’ve smiled and giggled at it before. The card sits on a shelf I pass by every day so the reminder to smile and the opportunity for a chuckle is always available. And those two kids in the heart-shaped frame with their bicycles? Those kids make me smile too. They never knew each other back then, they met much later in life and I am so glad that they did. Those kids are my husband and me.
Playfulness is one of the main ingredients of happiness, in my opinion. Even now when we are much taller (and slightly more round) than those two silly kids in the frame, playfulness and riding our bikes are part of the main ingredients of our relationship, and our happiness. There are, of course, many other important ingredients in a happy relationship, like friendship and respect and love. In fact, I would venture to say that friendship is the most important ingredient. Because with friendship, one also has love, respect, playfulness, and a bicycle. Okay, that last ingredient may be special to our relationship.
I read a book once called A Return to Love, by Marianne Williamson. I can’t find my copy to get a direct quote but I remember something from her book that has stuck with me. She says that we are to make our romantic relationships more like friendships and our friendships more romantic. This may seem strange but it actually makes perfect sense to me. Treating our friendships with the same level of love as a romantic relationship and treating our romantic partners more like our best friends, which hopefully they are, has a way of transforming both relationships.
On this Valentine’s Day I reach out to all of my friends… with a wish for you all to be surrounded with the most expansive, soul-warming love possible! And if you don’t have a romantic partner to celebrate Valentine’s Day with, don’t fret, treat yourself to some of your own big-hearted love… and maybe even a decadent chocolate treat!
Sending out lots of XOXOXO’S!!!
HAPPY VALENTINE’S DAY MY FRIENDS!